Bisexuls - A Breed To Recon With

COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. – A young man who formerly attended New Life Church says that then-pastor Ted Haggard performed a sex act in front of him in a hotel room in 2006 and sent him explicit text messages.

His hidden relationship with Haggard, the man said, was followed by a period of isolation, struggles with drinking, drugs and suicide attempts.

Those latest allegations against Haggard, once an influential national evangelical leader, were reported Monday night by KRDO-TV in Colorado Springs, which interviewed the man, now 25.

In a statement earlier Monday, Haggard apologized for his "inappropriate relationship" with the former church volunteer, but said it did not involve physical contact.

The newly disclosed relationship added a chapter to Haggard's dramatic fall, which began in November 2006 when a Denver male prostitute alleged a cash-for-sex relationship with Haggard.

Haggard confessed to undisclosed "sexual immorality" and resigned as president of the National Association of Evangelicals and pastor of New Life Church.

The latest revelations involve Grant Haas, who told the TV station that he met Haggard in 2005 when he was 22. He said he told Haggard that he had been kicked out of a Moody Bible Institute in Chicago for his "struggles with homosexuality."

"It seemed like at that moment his eyes lit up and his whole attitude towards me changed," he told KRDO. Reached by text message Monday, Haas agreed to be identified by The Associated Press. Haggard's statement also identified him.

"I'm like, 'This must be God,'" said Haas, who described wanting to be a pastor himself. "Why would this big guy, this big evangelical leader, be taking such an interest in me?"

Haas told KRDO that one night in Cripple Creek, a casino town west of Colorado Springs, Haggard "asked me if we were going to be godly or bad that night." He said he told Haggard that he wanted him just to be his friend and pastor — but Haggard masturbated in front of him.

Haas also said Haggard at certain times sent him between 1,000 and 2,000 text message a month, some describing his sexual experiences and drug use from the road.

After the Haggard scandal in November 2006, Haas said he contacted the church immediately.

Haggard, in his statement Monday, said he met with Haas two years ago — after the first allegations came to light — and asked him "forgiveness for our inappropriate relationship." Haggard's wife and a representative of New Life Church attended the meeting, Haggard said.

Boyd disclosed details of the relationship on Friday. He said then that evidence pointed to a long-running "inappropriate, consensual sexual relationship." On Monday, Boyd clarified that "sexual" didn't necessarily mean physical contact. –Yahoo News

My Issue:

The story of Haggard is nothing new. It shows a side of life little known to most and individuals like Haggard are nothing more than sexual predators. The unfortunate part of this whole story is that Haggard was a man of the cloth.

There are two types of bisexual men. There are those who are constantly in search of same sex hookups and in many cases they don’t care with whom. Then there are those who are in search of someone with whom they can establish a friendship thus eliminating promiscuity. Still, more often than not, this kind of friendship is strictly based on sex, thus the term “friend with benefits."

With those who are promiscuous there is no emotional attachments. It is basically a wham bam thank you sir type of encounter. As for "friends with benefits" there is some emotional wiggle room however very limited. The foundation of the relationship is strictly based on sex. As for the emotional part, well, I suppose that depends on with whom you are involved. Like an ad I once read; "no flowers, no movies, no dinner, no phone calls ... only seeking a long-term sex partner" pretty much sums up a "friends with benefits" type of relationship.

I am not saying that you should avoid a relationship with someone who is bisexual. There are those who are genuine and honest, and are able to treat you with respect and dignity. Therefore, if it's good to you, it must be good for you. However, for those bi's who are like revolving doors, should you decide to get involved with someone like this or like that of Haggard, run the other way. But if you choose to enter into the relationship at least go into it with eyes wide open and with extreme caution. Do not wear your heart on your sleeve and do not expect much, if anything, from the relationship. And above all, do not expect anything lasting cause you will be disappointed.

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Rewriten 01/28/09