The One You Just Walked Past

“Life is too short to live without being Happy. I was taught a valuable lesson long ago, if you're not happy with yourself, only a fool would try to change you, I'm nobody's fool. Most people never look beyond the surface to see what lies underneath, and for those I offer pity because they will never know what true love they may have passed up along the way searching for the next, the next and the next. Thru their path along a rocky road they learn no lesson but rather continue with the same repeated pattern of frustration, and self destruction. It's a very superficial world in which we live, full of advertisements telling us what we need, what we need to look like, and how "cute and sexy" the one standing beside us needs to be. Do they tell you what you're suppose to do when you need someone to hold your hand, when you have to face another lonely evening looking at your monitor instead of into someone's eyes, do they tell you how you're suppose to cope when the current person in you life moves along because he found something better, even though the only attraction you had to him was because he was cute. How long are you going to go thru life treating people so bad because something about them doesn't meet up to (your) standards … you still made the choice to live life with their shallow superficial standards instead of those in your heart. How about that wonderful meal you cooked, guess what, tomorrow you're eating leftovers because there is no one to share it with. … And if you want to go there on religion, ok where did GOD say it was wrong to love a man? A lot of others did, because they were lonely judgmental people, but does their judgment of you make it any better? Do they bring you happiness? Do they give you the love, respect, consideration, and admiration you deserve? No, only the person that loves you UNCONDITIONALLY and God can do that. So do you love yourself enough to allow for your total happiness? If you don't maybe you just need to go shopping and buy a new outfit, at least that way the surface shoppers can say, "he's cute" and never slow down enough to say, "He's one hell of a man.""

Sincerely,
The one you just walked past.

Excerpts from Glen Auburn for the "Dear Gay Man."